LGD 123: What Love Requires of Me

Man and woman holding hands

Today, we conclude our series, inspired by Andy Stanley’s new book Better Decisions, Fewer Regrets.

Man and woman holding hands
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You might remember the day you said, “I do.” If you have been married for any length of time, you remember those magical words.

Now that you have a few thousand miles under your marriage vows, the road becomes challenging, and you go through some rocks.

As you emerge from the other side, you look back over what you weathered and are blessed to view the road through this filter.

Unfortunately, some are not fortunate enough to make it to the other side. Others celebrate 50, 60, or even 70 years of marriage, and their love grows exponentially with each passing day.

I have not found that special someone, but I have witnessed my parents, and they just crossed 52 years of marriage. Wow!

Andy Stanley asks the question, “what does love require of us?”

As Jesus walked among us, He said,

“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”

John 13:34-35

Who am I supposed love?


Not my enemies or people I don’t like on Facebook or my political opponent – surely Jesus didn’t mean them as well.


In the book, Andy shares that when we come upon relational conflict, whether, at home or work, we need to protect the relationship. By protecting the relationship, we allow the opportunity for trust and restoration to exist.

If we depart from these things, it isn’t easy to recover. You may have experienced the pain and loss of friendship or a relationship. It’s not easy, and I have been where you are at.

Andy concludes, “when we do not know what to say or do, ask what love requires of me.

Love is written throughout the pages of the Bible. However, you might encounter people who do not read the Bible or believe in the Bible – now, what do you do.

You show God’s love.

Jesus didn’t just talk about love, He demonstrated love.

We should demonstrate Christ’s love to the people we meet each day, and even though the conversations might be difficult, we must maintain our resolve to love each other.

Today, when you don’t know what to say or do, show love to those around you.

Prayer: Lord, thank you for this series and the demonstration of love to those around us. Please help to live a life that begs people to ask me why I am kind, gracious, and loving so I can point them to you. Amen!


I am the host of an ABF Lifegroup - a collection of folks doing community and life together. We are a ministry of Agoura Bible Fellowship. When I am not leading this group, I love to travel, take photographs, share stories, and design workspaces that matter.

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